Today was a better day. I walked Emma in to school this morning, and one of teachers offered to facilitate the conversation between Emma and J, one of the girls who sent the video. I was grateful for that --I know from a conversation with J's mom just how upset J was yesterday, and I thought it would be better for both kids to have an independent adult with them, rather than only one child's mother.
I've never heard from the second child's mother. Her child, G, did send Emma an apology via text message. I didn't think that was adequate, and I guess Emma didn't either, because she actually asked the teacher if she could facilitate a conversation between the two of them as well. From what Emma has told us, both conversations seem to have gone all right --brief, a bit awkward (not unexpectedly), but all right.
I know that Emma will move past this incident faster than I will. I can't even imagine having these kids in our home again, although that is likely to happen. And I'll just have to keep telling myself that they are just kids who made a bad decision.
But there is part of me that doesn't really understand how even 11 year olds could not realize how hurtful something like this would be.
I really appreciate being able to share this kind of thing with all of you, and your comments. It helps. Thanks.